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Rebuilding isn't about returning to what was. It's about creating what needs to be, one intentional day at a time. - Anonymous
I love change. I crave it. And when I'm ready for a change, nobody can stop me. But the messy middle? The in-between? The transition? I can’t stand. That’s where chaos resides. Where the routines I rely on disappear and even small, day-to-day tasks feel overwhelming. It’s not the actual change that gets me. It’s rebuilding in between. The loss of structure. And honey, I. Need. Structure.
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“30 Quick Practices For Black Women To Kickstart Your Self‑Care Routine” from Life Goals Magazine offers a rich, practical collection of 5‑minute, 30‑minute, and 1‑hour practices. These self‑care ideas can beautifully support your transition and help you to focus on rebuilding routines or giving old rituals a fresh spin.
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Here’s what I’ve learned from my many transitional periods:
- Loss of structure isn’t the enemy. It’s a signal that something new is trying to emerge.
- Structure is still important. As a parent of an autistic child, I thrive in routines. They give us both grounding. But when life shifts, clinging to the old structure only creates more stress.
- Transition = Remodel. You don’t always need to throw everything out. Sometimes it’s about giving your routines a makeover. The evening neighborhood walk may not be possible anymore, but a quick stroll by the office park can serve the same purpose.
Questions for Reflection
- Where in your life are you trying to hold on too tightly to “the way things were”?
- Which of your old routines might just need a remodel instead of a replacement?
- What’s one small ritual you could rebuild this week that would bring you peace in the middle of transition?
✍🏾Journal Prompt
What part of your daily routine feels most important to re-establish in this new season, and why?
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💪🏾Challenge Yourself
Choose one simple habit (morning prayer, journaling, evening walk) to ground yourself and commit to it this week.
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💅🏾Affirmation
I create new rhythms that sustain me through every transition.
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Closing Word
Loss of control and structure doesn’t have to feel like failure or overwhelm. It can be the start of freedom. The beauty of transition is that you get to design your “new normal” in a way that fits who you are today. Letting go doesn’t mean you’ve lost. It means you’ve made space for clarity, balance, and a fresh design.
Ingrid
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